As a postnatal doula I often see mamas at their most vulnerable. Becoming a mum for the first OR second time is a brand new experience! The hormonal changes a womens body goes through in the early days and weeks with a newborn are huge. Why then do we feel the need to act like we have it all under control so quickly?
I’ve asked many women why they don’t ask for help when they feel they really need it, and most of the time they say the same things ‘I want to prove I can do it’, ‘ I don’t want to let my baby down’, ‘I want to be a good mum’.
Well I’ve got news for you mama……..
YOU CAN DO IT, YOU’RE NOT LETTING ANYONE DOWN, AND YOU ARE A GOOD MUM!
Having a good support network at home to do chores around the house, look after older siblings, or cook you a meal can leave you to focus on resting and bonding with your new baby. There is no time limit of when you should be “back to normal”. Give your body time to heal, forget the skinny jeans and house chores……just enjoy bonding with your baby!
So next time you are feeling overwhelmed, tired, anxious or emotional, remember this is totally normal for a woman who has just given birth. There are family members, friends or doula’s out there on hand to support you, but they will only know you need it if you… ask for help.